Mother’s Day is coming quickly (this Sunday), but what about Birth Mother’s Day? Not many are aware and not many take the time to thank our birth mothers, but Birth Mother’s Day is a time for adoptive families in open adoption and international adoption to show gratitude to the gift that has been given to them through the adoption process. This day takes place on the Saturday before Mother’s Day (this Saturday, May 9th) to make birth mothers aware that they are important in their child’s journey. Mother’s day is often hard for birth mother’s because they are grieving over the loss of their child but at the same time remembering that their child is in a better place with parents who will love them unconditionally, as they do, but who can provide for them as they cannot.
Birth Mother’s Day is a time to show birth mothers your appreciation and show your children that their birth mother cared so deeply for them that they wanted what was best for them.
If you are an adoptive family and are unsure of ways to thank the birth mother for the gift of a child, here are some simple gestures to consider from Adoption.org:
- Attend a Birthmother’s day ceremony or create one with your own birthmother. Just as we create a celebration on Mother’s day, one can also be created on Birthmother’s Day.
- Skype the birth mother to let her know you are thinking about her and have the child present, if part of an open adoption.
- Tell your children about their birthmother’s sacrifice and acknowledge what they did for your family.
Please consider this following poem from Joint Council on International Children’s Services:
Legacy of an Adopted Child
Once there were two women,
Who never knew each other.
One you do not remember,
The other you call Mother.
Two different lives,
Shaped to make you one.
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.