Adopting an Older Child: A Journey of Challenges and Joy
Many of the children featured in our Waiting Child Photo Listings are older, and adopting an older child comes with its unique challenges. However, it also offers an opportunity to experience amazing joy. To illustrate this, Jennifer Gess shares her heartfelt letter below.
Dear Families Considering Adoption,
My name is Jennifer Gess, and I was adopted from Colombia when I was 14 years old. I know that choosing to adopt an older child can feel like a big decision and maybe even a little scary. But I want to share my story in the hope that it gives you encouragement and reassurance.
Adoption completely changed my life. At first, it was challenging; I had to learn a new language, adapt to a different culture, and adjust to being part of a family after spending years in an orphanage. It wasn’t always easy for my parents or me. But through love, patience, and mutual effort, we built something truly special. Today, I know without a doubt that they are my family. They have supported me through every step of my life, including helping me graduate from college.
If you’re considering adopting an older child but have fears, I understand. It is a big change for both of you. But if you feel called to do this, I encourage you to take that step. Yes, there will be challenges, and both you and your child will have to make sacrifices and adjustments. But the love and stability you offer can change their life forever. More importantly, you are giving them the chance to experience what it means to be part of a family—something every child deserves.
When I first arrived, my relationship with my parents wasn’t perfect. They already had daughters, and I was older, so we had to navigate a new family dynamic together. But because we were willing to grow and understand each other, our bond became stronger. Today, I am incredibly grateful for my parents and sisters. They have shown me what unconditional love looks like, and they have given me the confidence to believe in my future.
Now, 10 years later, I have graduated from college, and I hope one day I can work at an adoption agency to help other families see the beauty of adoption. I want to help more children find the love and stability that I was lucky enough to receive.
So, if you’re thinking about adopting an older child, I hope you take that leap of faith. It won’t always be easy, but it will be one of the most rewarding journeys you’ll ever take, not just for the child you welcome into your home but for you as well.
With gratitude,
Jennifer Gess
Consider Adopting an Older Child
Do you feel called to adopt an older child? Take a look at our Waiting Child Photo Listings to meet some of the incredible children waiting for a family. You can also visit our Learn About Adoption page to connect with our team and explore which of our programs might be the perfect fit for your family.
Also, you can personally meet some of the waiting children by going on one of our Colombia mission trips. These trips are a vital part of our ministry, helping us gather important information and advocate for the children who need homes.